New Year’s Resolutions – No More!

I’ve never been one to make New Year’s resolutions but I have always loved the New Year.  As you post up that clean empty calendar it seems like a fresh new start.  Naturally, we all stop and take inventory of our current lives and imagine what the upcoming year will bring. 

While watching a program this last weekend (Create an Abundant Life with Cheryl Richardson – which I highly recommend!) I decided not to make myself a New Year resolution but instead to give myself a motto for the year.  Cheryl Richardson says, “A high quality life often has more to do with what you remove from your life than what you add to it.” 

I thought, “Wow, that’s brilliant!  It’s completely opposite of how we as women live our lives!”  I have always thought that I need to do more, see more, learn more – keep adding to the list, keep adding to the pile.  But what I really need to do is cut the extra junk out and put my focus on the important things.

I now see that it’s not about time management, it’s about self management!  This year my motto is; I choose

I choose what needs to be in my life.  I choose what doesn’t.  That puts me in control, and gives me more comfort, patience, energy, and fun!

How about you?  Will you attempt another New Year’s resolution, or instead live by a motto this year?

The Soul Sisters

The Gift of Memories

As I get more seasoned as a mother I realize more and more how great my own parents are. They provided for all our needs as we grew up but always put more attention on the non-material things in life. They were constantly putting time into making memories with us over buying an over-abundance of gifts. Our Christmases from the past included caroling, tobogganing, homemade eggnog, and surprise visits from Santa. Each year was complete with a flurry of gift opening as well, but these are the memories I remember. Yes, we all want the best for our children but I think there is something to be said for a child to be raised with wanting some things that they never quite get. And for those gifts that they do get…isn’t the excitement that much more intense when a gift has been on their wish list for years prior?

As my children get older I try to parent them as my parents did my siblings and me. Instead of putting the focus on the gifts at Christmas, I try to put the focus on making memories. Memories are a funny thing though; there is no way for me to know what things my kids will remember and what they will forget. All I can do is to take the time to create memorable experiences for them and hope that they remember.

We got home at about 10:30pm on Christmas Eve, after a busy evening of church and then a family gathering. The drive home was a little treacherous, but once we made it we could appreciate the beautiful evening; calm winds, warm temps in the upper 20’s, and the hugest snowflakes coming down over our neighborhood. Now my normal routine is to hurry from the car into house while my husband unloads the kids. But this night was different as I instantly saw an opportunity to make a memory for my daughter. As we stood at the edge of the garage watching the snowfall I reached down and packed together a snowball and threw it at my husband. I’m still not sure who was more surprised, my husband or my daughter. It took a few moments for her to realize what mommy had just done. Then she let out a laugh like you’ve never heard. Before we knew it all three of us were out in the driveway throwing snowballs at each other. And there we stood, still in our dress clothes from the Christmas evening, having a snowball fight, and making a memory for my daughter.

There was so much to enjoy about this past holiday season but that was easily my highlight and I hope it’s a memory that sticks with my daughter. If not, oh well, I plan to give plenty more throughout the years!

The Soul Sisters

Is there a Santa Claus?

I don’t remember specifically when I realized that there was no real guy, dressed in red, assisted by elves, who rode around the world in a sleigh powered by flying reindeer? If I had to guess, I would say I was around 10 years old. I have 3 younger siblings who believed and carried the idea of the real physical Santa on for several years after me. I guess pretending with them, and for them, kept the idea alive for me somewhat.

Now fast forward a number of years. I am now a mom; my son and daughter are at the pivotal ages of “believing” and “kinda sorta believing, but beginning to question”; ages 12 & 9, respectfully. I can’t say that they haven’t inquired about the idea of a Santa who receives their letters every year. In fact, my son asked me a couple weeks ago, “Mom, do you believe in Santa?” I answered him truthfully, “I believe in the magic of Christmas. This is the time of year when Christmas angels make miracles happen. Whatever you believe in your heart is the true spirit of the Season.” He must have been satisfied with that answer because he still 100%, believes in Santa. And, I thank God that he didn’t ask me, “Mom, is there really a Santa?” instead. I don’t know how I would’ve answered that question. Talk about your Christmas miracles.

It won’t be long before these two give into the peer pressures of their friends and this one Christmas secret will soon be a distant memory. Yes, this year might be it; the last year of tip-toeing their presents under the tree in the middle of the night. I will treasure all the more that very moment; seeing the magic in their eyes and excitement on their faces when they see the gifts under the tree. Even though Santa may not stop at our house next year, the spirit of everything Santa stands for will be forever in our home.

Now, I pray my son doesn’t read this blog before Christmas or my goose is cooked.

The Soul Sisters

Real Meaning Behind the Words of the Holiday

It’s December and the holidays are in full swing. Chances are you wrapped some presents and have even seen a Santa (or two).  There are so many words tossed about during Christmastime and we thought it would be fun to share some of our favorites.

Below is a holiday word for every day of December, each with a special definition that we hope will help make your holidays meaningful and bright.

  1. Jingle…of course the sound of bells, but also what you should be giving a friend who may be lonely and hurting. Pick up the phone today.
  2. Brilliance…the moonlight on fresh fallen snow can’t even compare to the bright light within you. You’re magnificent! Let your light shine!
  3. Gift…The best present you could give this holiday season is the present of Christmas “presence”. Be fully present with those you love.
  4. Reflection…We spend a lot of time in front of the mirror this time of year but how’s your self-image look? Take time to reflect on that.
  5. Dream…visions of sugarplums may dance in our heads, but what dreams do you have for your life? It’s not too late to make a dream come true.
  6. Embrace…Hugs all around of course; however it’s also time to embrace your personal power. Your potential is limited only by you.
  7. Wrap…paper and tape is in high demand, but don’t forget to wrap your day in positive affirmations.  Repeat them each morning and night!
  8. Star…Gaze at the sky and remember who you are; as vibrant & unique as any star, comprised of the same energy and made by the same Creator.
  9. Peace…and goodwill to men–Don’t forget some inner peace for you. Only when you are calm and centered can you hear your Divine guidance.
  10. Surprises…and the unexpected. Why not surprise yourself? Leave the fear and doubt behind and realize your true potential!
  11. Chill…There’s a chill in the air. How about chillaxin’ and taking some time for relaxin’? Massage, prayer, meditation…what does it for you?
  12. Santa…They err who thinks Santa Claus comes down through the chimney; he really enters through the heart.
  13. Miracle…This time of year, they’re all around us. After the holidays have passed, watch for them daily. Open your heart and you’ll see.
  14. Love…Make love more important than anything else during the holiday season, and all the year though, and true happiness will be yours.
  15. Laughter…joy and laughs echo thru the season. Partake and enjoy the health benefits: heighted immunity, stress relief, and reduced cravings!
  16. Giving…Don’t stop the giving on Christmas day!  Give of your gifts and talents the entire year through.
  17. Snowflakes…Just like our best friends (and Soulspring Group members) no two are alike, yet they stick together just the same.
  18. Wonder…See the season through the eyes of a child and you’ll experience a holiday that is both wonderful and wonder-filled.
  19. Lists…Shopping and to-do lists are everywhere, but have you put your life’s goals down in writing? It’s the first step to achieving them.
  20. Sing…Sounds of choirs fill the air but the only song that really matters is the song of your heart. Are you singing a joyful song inside?
  21. Hustle & Bustle…Busyness abounds and time is at a premium. Just be sure you’re spending your time and energy on the RIGHT things.
  22. Angel…God’s heavenly messengers can be found around nearly every corner. Be an angel to others with a few random acts of kindness.
  23. Heart…Between the parties and the gift shopping remember, if Christmas isn’t found in your heart, you won’t find it under a tree.
  24. Memories…When we recall Christmas past, we find that the simplest things, not the great occasions, give off the greatest glow of happiness.
  25. Savior…The reason for the season, He taught forgiveness. Put the lesson into practice and forgive yourself. He’s forgiven you already.
  26. Trash…As you dispose of the holiday garbage throw out your limiting and disempowering beliefs with the rest of the trash.
  27. Tradition…recipes and traditions passed down through the generations. Start a new ritual of self-care and feed your spirit in the New Year.
  28. Wishes…First wishes, then dreams, then goals. What have you been wishing for? Join your dream with action and a plan and make it real.
  29. Bubbly: Champagne bubbles are like the passions ready to burst from your soul. Let them rise to the surface and live authentically.
  30. Resolution…People think of the New Year as a new start on old habits. This year make resolutions that really mean something to you.
  31. Toast…Cheers to you and to New Years too. New beginnings and another chance for us to get it right!

The Soul Sisters

Your Gift to the World

Quite often we find ourselves in early December looking for that “perfect gift” for someone. We spend hours searching through websites, stores, lists, and infomercials. We spend this time all for the sake of seeing that special someone’s face light up as they open the most wonderful present! What a great feeling!

In this season of giving we tend to also feel more motivated to give to the people we don’t know, in addition to our friends and family. We drop change in the donation buckets, volunteer for a needy cause, or perhaps adopt a less fortunate family. It’s easy for us to give because engrained in us is a hope that this giving will somehow change the world. That these small series of events will compound to create a ripple effect and transform lives.

Yet are you really giving your best to the world? What if we told you the ultimate gift has always been inside of you? You see, each of us has the most unique and spectacular mix of talents and skills within us. Trouble is, we don’t recognize or acknowledge then and often take for granted how significant these gifts truly are.

Consider the story of Anna Mary Robertson. She loved embroidery and throughout her life had become quite good at it. Embroidery was a hobby she very much enjoyed but after developing arthritis in her seventies embroidery became so difficult that she finally had to give up her beloved hobby at the age of 78. Yes, it’s sad I know, but the story doesn’t end there.

Instead of just sitting around doing nothing or lamenting the loss of this activity she decided to try something new. She founds some paints and a piece of heavy cardboard and without any experience or any lessons began to paint. She was happy to find something that she enjoyed just as much as her embroidery and people told her that her paintings were quite good. She decided to put them on display at the local drugstore.

Well who would have guessed just how popular her paintings would become? Before the end of her life she painted over 1,000 paintings, depicting rural life in the New York town she called home, painting from memory the life she knew. You would most likely recognize Anna’s paintings if you saw one. She has since become known worldwide for her prolific output and kindly country persona, and today is one of the most famous American folk artists of the 20th century. I’m sure by now you’ve guessed that Anna Mary Robertson is also known as Grandma Moses. I shudder to think what the world would have missed had Anna not followed her passion and drive and tried something new after being forced to give up her needlework. She didn’t let age, or experience, or money, or what others thought, stop her from following her heart’s desire. And while I doubt a Grandma Moses painting ever brought about world peace, I know many were inspired by her work in other ways and most likely we will never really know the effects the talent she developed late in her life actually had on the world. Through her paintings and her example she gave her best gift to the world…the world accepted…we will never be the same.

Therein lies a lesson for each of us. What are your hidden talents? What treasure lies deep within you? You can make an impact during this holiday season and beyond by following through on your dreams and freely giving your greatest gifts. Begin today.

The Soul Sisters

A Special Holiday Offer for You

What a delightful time of the year…truly one of our favorites. If we had to put my finger on the one thing that we like most about the Christmas Season we would have to say that it’s the feeling in the air. It’s that magical feeling that anything is possible. It’s the season of miracles both big and small.

We have to be honest; we have not started our shopping. Every year we strive to be one of those people who announces the week before Thanksgiving that they just finished the wrapping of their Christmas presents. And every year, this year being no different, we’re now starting to frantically shuffle through the store flyers and surf the internet to find the best prices, the whole time hoping that on-line purchases can be shipped in time for Christmas.

This year however, all this talk about the economy is causing many people to cut back. The retailers accommodate; it’s amazing the specials, sales, and offers that the stores are advertising. Get 20% off your entire purchase today only, buy one get one free, free shipping, my personal favorite the unadvertised sale, and the list goes on. To track every deal, and determine which really is the best value, would take an expert shopper, which we are not.

Cutting back financially will certainly benefit our pocket books, but more needs to be done. Anyone have a hot deal on Christmas Spirit?

We have an idea…maybe we take a lesson from our friendly stores and offer our own personal unadvertised sale? Try the “20% off unnecessary commitments” and spend more time with family and friends. Or how about the “buy one, get one free” and hand down a family tradition or two to a child in your life. Some people like coupons, why not redeem this…“1/2 off stress and live in the moment”.

For a truly special Christmas Season, focus on the simple things that the holidays have to offer. Start now, well before Christmas, and see the magic waiting to happen.

The Soul Sisters

P.S. Become a Soulspring Empowerment Group follower on Facebook and download our Soulspring Holiday Coupons (just click on our Facebook pdf tab). Not your usual discounts, but a creative reminder of the special opportunities available to you this holiday season. Print them off and redeem them today! Finally, some coupons you can really use!

Miracle of the Heart

There’s always a special something in the air during the holiday season. For some it inspires a permanent grin affixed on their face, rouses a kind deed amongst the hustle and bustle, or motivates nonstop humming while going through daily tasks. So what exactly is inspiring all this behavior? I believe it’s because people live with more of an open heart this time of year.

Living with an open heart is one of the leading causes of happiness. When we live with an open heart we express gratitude easily, are quick to forgive, and continuously wish others health and happiness.

I just finished listening to a great interview of Marci Shimoff, author of Happy for No Reason. She told a great true story that supports the power of living with an open heart. A woman had been living with Lupus for 15 years. Bound to a wheelchair and constantly in pain she was very depressed. She came across the concept of meta meditation, which is the act of silently wishing everyone you meet a wish of health and happiness. While she was skeptical she decided that she had nothing to lose and so she made a commitment to herself to practice meta meditation for one year. She would wake up every morning, sit up in bed, and say silently to herself, “May I be safe, may I be happy, my I be healthy, may I live with ease.” And then with everyone she would meet through the day, from the people in line behind her at the store, to the fellow drivers on the road, she would silently send them this wish, “May you be safe, may you be happy, may you be healthy, may you live with ease.”

It has been a year and doctors are now calling her a medical miracle. She is completely symptom free, out of her wheelchair, and exercising three days a week. The only thing that changed in her life was the openness of her heart.

After hearing a story like this you have to ask yourself, “is it possible to heal by wishing others well?” I’m not exactly sure myself, but one thing if for sure; I’ll be trying this meta meditation out for myself! What do I have to lose, right? What a beautiful act of self-love and a generous gift to others…and what better time of year to try it out than during the holidays?

The Soul Sisters