Fear can be complicated and range from worry to phobia and all points in between. We all have times in our lives when we are gripped by fear. It’s natural and thanks to fear and “fight or flight” the reason we’re still surviving on the plant. But there are times when fear creeps into our everyday life like a goblin, trapping us in negative thinking and self-talk, and paralyzing us from taking the steps towards a better life.
That’s when it’s time to regain your personal power and the 5 tips below can show you how!
1. Fear is a talented trickster. Our fears trick us into believing they are based on fact, when in actuality most of our fear lives in the future. Usually fear is about something that “might” happen, not something that we definitely-know-for-sure will. Maintain a focus on the present and when fear sets in ask yourself, “Is there anything for me to be afraid of at this very moment in time?” The answer will surprise and relieve you!
2. Fear is just an emotion and just like any emotion, it can control us if we give it the power. Irrational fear is an overblown imagination of what might happen in the future. When you are afraid that your plane will crash, it is just an emotion not the crash itself that frightens you. Recognizing this will render your fear powerless.
3. Fear is always about loss; loss of life, loss of wealth, loss of security, loss of comfort, etc. The fear of loss is directly proportionate to the intensity of the attachment you have. Dissect your fear or worry down to what you fear will be lost and ask yourself, “If this fear came true, what is the worst thing that can happen?” Often you will find that your worst case scenario is a long shot and your fear can be easily overcome with the right plan of action and safeguards.
4. Fear is present only when there is a desire. Fear arises only when there is conflict between what we want and what “might” happen. We build up expectations around life and come up with a concrete picture of how our lives “should” turn out. This inflexibility forms a strong foundation for fear. If we are open to new possibilities and a new vision of safety, comfort and success, we can be courageous. When we flow with life, fears dissolve. When you find yourself wracked with fear, ask yourself, “Why should I resist this?” You may find the strength to let go and flow.
5. Beliefs about fear can be transformed. The scariest thing about fear is the effect it has on our lives. For many, it is fear that stands between us, and the best that life has to offer. It is possible however, to change how we look at fear. Instead of a barrier standing in our way, what if we chose to look at fear differently and really challenge our deepest beliefs about fear? Instead of thinking of fear as bad, consider the benefits we experience because of it. For example, fears like reaching into a burning fire, walking across thin ice, or driving under the influence are valid; these warnings should be heeded. However, most of our fears are based on worst-case scenarios that we fabricate in our head. Choose to adopt new and empowering beliefs about fear and you will find it easier to overcome them.
The Soul Sisters